National Catholic Reporter
The Independent Newsweekly
?Signup Here For  Weekly E-mail

   1Archives  | 

 Global Perspective

March 11, 2004
Vol. 1, No. 48

global perspective
Mary Jo Leddy is a member of the Romero House community in Toronto and the author of Radical Gratitude.



We are afflicted with ingratitude. Because we take the basic gift of life for granted, we can assume that our lives are, for better or for worse, what we have made of them. And we cannot look on what we have made and see that it is very good.

The ingratitude that binds us

A reflection for the third week of Lent

By Mary Jo Leddy

Lent 2004

Lent is a time when left-leaning Christians can be tempted by the thought that they have too much. However, such guilt can become an inner cramp that will never loosen us and set us free from the chains of consumerism that hold us captive behind the plastic curtain.

Liberation, as I wrote in my previous column, begins with a sense of gratitude for the grace of being alive. This awareness can begin to transform us at other levels of our being and has social and economic implications.

  • To say I AM ENOUGH is to say that, just as I am, with all my strengths and weaknesses, I can make a difference. This is the beginning of a new sense of power.
  • This is also the beginning of being able to say I AM GOOD ENOUGH, which is the beginning of liberation from the vague guilt that paralyzes us in the culture of dissatisfaction.
  • This awareness can also begin to transform us at other levels of our lives so we can begin to say I HAVE ENOUGH with a happy and free spirit.

In other words, when we stop taking life for granted and recognize it as a gift that is ENOUGH, we are transformed at a deeply spiritual level -- to the point where we start to feel a new sense of power, a renewed hope that we can be liberated from the chains that bind us.

Slowly but surely, the cultural chains that hold us captive will begin to drop. The cycle in which each promise of happiness is accompanied by an even deeper dissatisfaction will be broken.

Earlier Reflections
We in North America are in desperate need for such liberation because we are afflicted with ingratitude. Because we take the basic gift of life for granted, we can assume that our lives are, for better or for worse, what we have made of them. And we cannot look on what we have made and see that it is very good.

This dissatisfaction afflicts the haves and the have-nots and those who have a little and want more.

The very rich may seem to have every reason to be grateful, yet this is not always the case. It may be even more difficult for them to experience the sheer gratuity of being loved for no reason. I remember visiting a very wealthy old aunt who was dying. After I had prayed with her, she reached over for her checkbook and asked me, almost automatically, whether I could use some money for one of my causes.

"No, I don't want any money," I responded -- even to my own surprise. "I just came to see you and to be with you." Her eyes filled with tears. "I never know, you see, if someone is coming to see me just for myself," she said, "or for my money." This gave me some insight into Jesus' remarks about how difficult it would be for the rich to enter the kingdom of God where love reigned, as difficult as it would be for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle. Very few love the rich for no reason, without self-interest, for free. The rich hear words of gratitude, but they sound empty and ingratiating.

The difficulty the rich have in experiencing the gratuity of God's love may help explain the contemporary theological maxim about the preferential option for the poor. I cannot imagine this means that God loves the poor MORE than the rich or the middle-class. Such a qualification and quantification of God's love seems to restrict the mystery of God's love -- which is both all-encompassing and particular with each person.

Nevertheless, it just possible that the poor may have a special awareness of the sheer gratuity of God's love because they have fewer illusions that they can earn it or that they can buy the affection and care of others.

For the truly destitute, it is much more difficult to be grateful. As I have learned from my years of living with refugees, when one's entire existence hangs on the possibility of getting food or when generations of poverty have scarred not only the body but also the mind and the spirit, gratitude does not come easily. The destitute do have reason to wonder whether one can get something for nothing.

E-mail Alerts
Don't miss any of Mary Jo Leddy's reflections. To receive an e-mail notice when the reflections are posted every week to Global Perspective on the NCR Web site, follow this link: Click on the link at the top right of this page to send the column to a friend or colleague.
In other words, there are certain economic conditions that make it more difficult to experience the sheer gratuity of God's love. Not impossible, just much more difficult.

The restless striving that has earned them a place in the middle class afflicts those who neither have too much nor too little. By meeting the demands of becoming qualified and through personal sacrifice, they have internalized a sense that you can't get something for nothing. Having worked their way into an identity, they cannot imagine how the best things in life could possibly be for free and forever. Having neither too much nor too little, they can still remain dissatisfied with themselves.

Ingratitude is ingrained within every social class within the culture of money. It is how sin takes shape within us, conditions us, and holds us captive in many and various ways.

However, this does not mean we should be grateful for everything in our lives. Gratitude does not dispel the mystery of suffering and evil in the world, and may even deepen it. We cannot look at the child who has been raped and say that God will draw something good from out of this. We cannot think of children consumed by the fires of Auschwitz and Hiroshima and manufacture some cheap gratitude. Nevertheless, we become part of taking their lives for granted once again if we are not grateful that they once were alive. We can be grateful for the memory of their lives and maybe even grateful for the memory of why their deaths were so unnecessary and so evil.

The longer we live ungratefully, the more we strengthen the claims of a culture that takes everything and everyone for granted. Ingratitude lies at the root of our difficulty in loving God beyond guilt, in doing justice beyond guilt, in loving others freely. It makes it more difficult to imagine a world in which it would be a little easier to be grateful.

One of the simplest times to be grateful is the time before eating. The time opens when we give up fast foods and our ways of foraging through the kitchen.

We give You thanks
for You sustain us
with real food
and real drink.
You nourish us
with friends as real as food
with joy as clear as water
with love as good as this meal.
This is enough.
We do not ask for more.
This is more than enough
reason to bless Your name
Make us always mindful of those
who do not have enough
food and friendship
water and love and joy.
Give them enough
that they too may be thankful. Amen.

Editor's Note: Come back to Global Perspective next week for more of Leddy's reflections for Lent. Some of the reflections are developed further in Leddy's book Radical Gratitude(Orbis, 2002).

Top of Page   | Home
Copyright © 2004 The National Catholic Reporter Publishing  Company, 115 E. Armour Blvd., Kansas City, MO 64111 
TEL:  1-816-531-0538   FAX:  1-816-968-2280